Food commenters: those people who feel it necessary to comment on your food choices, how much you eat, how much you don’t eat, or how you choose to fuel yourself. Basically someone who feels it necessary to comment about your food. We’ve all run into them at some point and I’m curious to know how everyone deals with that kind of situation.
The type of food comments I’m referring to are the negative and passive-aggressive ones.
I’ve recently been on the receiving end of many food comments lately and I have to admit it leaves me feeling frustrated and alienated. Like my eating habits are being put on a microscope and everyone is watching me and what I do. I’m wondering why all of the sudden the way I eat is up for discussion.
I’m not referring to folks commenting on the blog. This is a food blog so naturally people are going to comment. I’m referring specifically about being in social situations where someone has decided that they need to openly share their opinion or make a statement about my food and how I’m eating it.
I’m not sure why folks feel that they are free to comment on one’s food when in a social situation but it happens and for me, it’s happening a lot lately. In the past month, meaning this month, I’ve been on the receiving end of such gems as:
“Oh, no cake for you? I guess you’re not human!”
What? Of course I’m human, I just don’t like cake. Period. I do not like cake. Why would I eat something I don’t enjoy?
“Well if I worked out like you, I could eat that way too.”
What does that even mean? Eat what way? With my mouth?
“Oh I see Andrea didn’t go back for seconds!”
Excuse me? My portions are now up for discussion?
“Aren’t you going to eat something?”
No thank you. I’m not hungry, I’m here to socialize and catch up with folks I haven’t seen in a while. But I’m glad you’re keeping tabs on me!
Those are just a few of the many scrutinizing and highly passive-aggressive comments that have been tossed my way.
Being labeled the “healthy person”, I’ve had more people comment on my food habits now than when I was overweight and unhealthy. Because I’ve lost weight, I’ve had people mention that clearly I don’t eat or that I don’t eat enough. Or that they are shocked I eat pizza or fries because obviously all I eat are salads or “rabbit food and grass”.
I eat REAL FOOD folks. I like to eat. We’ve discussed this before.
I choose to nourish myself with foods that work for me and make me feel good. I avoid foods that make me feel like crap.
A very quick mood killer and way to get me to not enjoy your company is by being a food commenter. Those kind of comments hurt and come across as very mean. While I realize that most of them are the result of that person being insecure about how they eat, that doesn’t really take away the sting.
It never fails that these situations always take me by surprise and then I’m left not knowing what to say. I know what I want to say but I keep that to myself. I usually end up ignoring the person and moving on or away from them if I can.
A quick discussion about this on Twitter yesterday resulted in everyone involved also saying that they don’t like it, it’s rude, and it’s mean along with being hurtful.
No one likes to have their food choices openly commented upon, and yet here we are dealing with it too often.
How do you handle it when it happens to you? Has it happened to you? I would love any tips, tricks, and pointers if you have them.