This is something I’ve been pondering for quite some time and watching yesterday’s episode of Giada at Home brought it back to the forefront of my mind.
Giada threw a dinner party and the meal consisted of three simple pasta dishes. One of the pasta dishes contained beef and all of them had minimal veggies. Now I adore Giada and I love her shows. This was the first show of hers where I sort of just cringed and thought, “Wow, that’s a lot of pasta.”
And then I started thinking, if I were invited to that dinner, what would I do? It’s a dinner party serving up stuff I don’t eat. I’m not a huge pasta lover, I only eat it on occasion. And when I do eat pasta it’s either whole wheat or a whole grain pasta. I do not eat basic white flour pasta. I’m also not a big meat eater. When I do partake, it’s going to be something I made because I know where it came from. Otherwise I tend to steer clear of animal flesh.
And this is the trouble with dinner parties isn’t it? You don’t know what’s going to be served until you get there. And then you’re stuck. At a sit down event, it would be very obvious if you weren’t eating. A buffet or potluck, you might be able to skirt around that a little bit easier.
But the truth of the situation is, someone is going to notice if you are not eating or pretending to eat.
What do you do? What is the proper etiquette in these types of situations?:
1. If you are invited to a nice sit-down dinner party and are served food you do not eat (and I’m making this specific, it has to be foods you do not eat as opposed to foods you’re allergic to; allergies are a whole other situation), how do you approach the situation without offending the host?
If I were at Giada’s party, I probably would have very small portions of everything and have a few bites of each dish. I don’t think I could bring myself to actually eat the beef though. Then once I got home, have a meal more suited to my tastes.
2. You’re invited to a pot-luck or a buffet-style party and realize that there is nothing offered that you eat. What do you do?
I’ve been in situation #2 many times since my new healthy eating journey started. My usual approach is to find the most Andrea-friendly foods and have small portions of them. And then as mentioned above, have a more typical meal once I get back home.
If possible, I also try to eat before the event for two reasons.
1. Because I don’t know what kinds of foods are going to be offered.
2. I don’t want to be hungry only to find out there is no food that I would want to eat. That doesn’t make for a good situation.
However, both situations can be tricky and if not handled properly could possibly lead to hurt feelings.
Is there a proper way to handle these situations? If you are faced with these situations, how do you handle them?